I called my son this evening. We don’t chat as often as I do with my daughter. He’s quite busy with a new baby, a still yet new wife, and a new job. So I try not to be a bother. He asked me why I hadn’t blogged in awhile. I stated that the week had been mundane in the eyes of other readers with workkamping, cruising the county, golfing, engaging with friends, and running weekly errands. He asked me if I thought my life were boring or mundane. I offered that it was not. It was then he infomed me that our lives of travel were far more exciting than the lives of quiet desperation practiced by most of the masses. This got me to thinking about words from a former travel and mystery writer, Agatha Christie. … Your travel life has the essence of a dream…..It is something outside the normal, yet you are in it……It is peopled with characters you have never seen before and in all probability will never see again……It brings occasional homesickness, and loneliness, and pangs of longing……But you are like the Vikings or the master mariners of the Elizabethan age, who have gone into a world of adventure, and home is not home until you return.
Tuesdays with Erin
For the past three Tuesdays, I have foresaken Ken as a golf partner. Yes, he has been replaced by a younger, prettier, and better golfer. Erin has taken up the sport. And much like he other athletic pursuits, she’s a natural. When she applies the mechanics of my instruction, she outdrives me as well as hitting her fairway woods much better. We’re still trying to overcome that softball swing the the cocking of that left leg. But that will come in time and again she will outshine her competition as she has much of her young life. But I wanted to share a short review with my fellow linksters, much like I share campground reviews, if ever in the South Jersey area. The Pitman Country Club in Sewell, NJ is a public facility having a regulation 18 hole golf course, a practice putting green, a driving range, a full service clubhouse restaurant and bar that also provides excellent catering services. This original Alexandar Findlay design provides golfers of all abilities the opportunity to enjoy their round, and maybe even break 70, 80, 90 or 100 for the first time!. The layout is relatively short in overall distance and it is forgiving off the tee but it will challenge you with it’s smaller green complexes. The course is affordable to play with a variety of pricing options and you will always find it in good condition.
The other course we played was the Riverwinds in West Deptford, NJ. I was excited when Erin booked tee times here as I knew this course was place scenicly along the Delaware River, and owned by Ron Jaworski, former Eagle quarterback and now and ESPN analyst. I imagined with that name recognition we were in for a great round. Some months ago, combined families dined here as a post-baptismal feast was held after Xavier’s christening. We imagined the golf to be as good as the dining. Not so. Right off the bat, the carts were all gas-powered and noisy enough that any hint of conversation while riding was out of the question. Our cart felt and sounded as if the drive train were about to drop out at any moment, leaving us with only cold clarity. I asked the starter our remedy should our cart falter out in no man’s land once away from the first tee. He noted the clubhouse number on the steering wheel to call. Erin and I glanced at each other with rolled eyes. Our starter instructed us not to adhere to the rule of 90 degress but to actually drive on the fairways as much as possible. This was another first for me. Only once were we out and about did I understand why. The roughs were so parched and dying of thirst they were actually brown.
The course was not well maintained at all, and with a lofty fee, this made for an even more distraught afternoon. I do have to say that holes 13 through 17 lie along the banks of the Delaware, and the cargo ships rolling in, the jets approaching landing, made the Philadelphia skyline look pristine and picturesque. However, this was the only highlight of the course. I could not honestly recommend this venue to a friend. Nevertheless, as the ad states, playing with my daughter was priceless and has made ” Tuesdays with Erin” an anticipated event.
A Statement Unparalled
Was a statement ever rendered to you that relinquished your doubt as a good parent? Was that statement so subtle yet so powerful that you melted inside? This morning I had a brief phone conversation with my son. In short notice, he expressed some understanding of the use of my term, “a father’s love”. I asked him what transpired between he and Xavier for him to make that statement. There was nothing. Just the fact that as the youngster grows daily into a person, a father’s love cements imperviously. He is understanding a bit more now. As our conversation ended, as he thumbed the end call on his cell, I reminisced back when I first became a father.
I closed my eyes and remembered when my children’s love filled my empty room. The tears I cry won’t bring it back again unless the lonely star should fall. Will his son call his Dad, who deals in love beyond repair? Will he heal his world when the heart is in need of care? Will he shine a light ahead when the next step is unclear? Call your Dad. He’s needed here.


